Monkey on the back

Fear ... can be a crippling thing. It can be like having a monkey on your back that just won't go away. Most of my readers may not be able to relate to this post - as 'fear' may manifest only as an occasional disturbance in an otherwise comparatively pleasant existence - but for those who live with fear, 'day in day out' - life can seem very difficult if not completely pointless, at times. But that monkey can be tamed - and even befriended - with some considerable effort and a willingness to change for the better. I have had the opportunity to teach quite a number of people, who have been in some way or the other, partially paralysed by the fear that sits on their back. The first step in the taming of the monkey, is to acknowledge that you are not alone, others have been through the same thing, and have come out better and stronger for the experience. Start small, embrace something unfamiliar, something outside of your comfort zone - go through it - experience it, marinate in it - feel the feelings - then ask yourself afterward - did it kill you? yes - that's right, you are still here - and more than likely, none the worse for wear. JBW


Liam H Wandi said…
well put John. Yesterday in the changing room (calm down!) I noticed a brand new student. He's Italian and I thought he didn't speak much English as he didn't say much in the past month or so he's been training. I had noticed earlier in the session that he was working very hard to escape from mount and did manage an escape or two.

Suddenly, he was talking to others in the changing room. Breaking the ice and socialising, asking about the upcoming events and if anyone else was going to watch.

He broke thru the fear, whether it was mount or using his English or talking to sweaty strangers in a changing room.
Anonymous said…
Fear is the mind killer,it is the little death that brings total obliteration: I will face my fear I will permit it to pass over me and thru me: and when it has passed I will turn my inner eye to see its path and where it has gone there will be nothing only I shall remain.

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