Comparisons ...

We often look at others through a set of eyes that only sees the ‘highlight reel’. In fact, a good friend of mine said this the other day ‘We tend to compare our ‘lows’ with other peoples ‘high’s’. Nicely put! I think this is true - both on an off the mat. Personally, I think that constantly comparing ourselves to others is not a very healthy way to live our lives. We each occupy the universe in our own way, often to the best of our abilities, often also at the mercy of a certain amount of luck (both good and bad). Some of us, create our own luck to an extent, and break free from the shackles of our environments or circumstances - most though, do not! But still, we all live - and strive to be happy and fulfilled as we try to improve our circumstances. We can learn from others - for sure - of course - (necessary perhaps) … but comparing ourselves to others in a way that highlights our struggle can only lead to unhappiness (envy even). Remember, everyone (in some way) struggles. We tend to judge others by their victories and successes and ourselves by our shortcomings. To quote fro the poem Desiderata … ‘If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” 

- JBW